Sunday, July 13, 2008

Yeah, I'm doing a good job

Parenthood is one job where you don't get a performance review. Sure, people comment that you're a good mother/father or maybe they comment on your child's good manners but no one sits you down & says "we'd like to see you work on your rainy day activities but overall we're very pleased & you'll see a 4% pay increase."

So, how do you know you're doing a good job, that you're doing the right thing by your child?

I got a sign today--we went shopping for a new floor lamp as well as a wedding gift for friends who are renewing their vows next weekend (they got married last winter before he deployed). Hunter ran our purchases to the car & then to Barnes & Noble while the Wee One & I went to Toys R Us to pick out a doll outfit for her baby doll, Baby Ella.

As we were walking down the aisles in TRU she stopped & picked up a toy someone had left on the floor & put it away where it belonged. Without being asked. I stopped, looked her in the eye & told her that I was proud of her for doing the right thing.

Onto Marshalls for a quick peek & again, a little doll had fallen on the floor & the Wee One picked her up & put her back on the table. Lightning DOES strike twice!

I feel so very validated as a mother---she IS paying attention when I do things, say things, ask her to do things. I AM doing the right things with her!

I stopped patting myself on the back long enough to do some knitting & throw a load of laundry in the wash.

4 comments:

Jane said...

Job description for the hardest job in the world!

POSITION: Mom, Mommy, Mama, Ma

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Jami said...

You're the best Mom I know. And, Iknow a lot of moms. But, really, you're the best!

:)

jopal said...

Somedays being a mom is so great! Isn't it nice t know they really do hear some of what we say!

Knit and Purl Mama said...

Good job! Doesn't that make you feel good!?? Now if I could only get my son to listen.

I like what someone posted above, I'm sharing it on my blog tonight.